Letting Go

I've been struggling lately with letting go of things. I have heard many quotes from songs and such that say something like, "If you love something give it away." It usually adds onto that with, "If it loves you it will come back." Things like this always seem to make me try to make sense of it, but I always come out of it utterly confused. I ask myself if I love something why would I give it away?

You could say that I'm not struggling with loving something but rather loving someone. Times come and go where I feel abandoned and hopeless with them but I am still completely and utterly awestruck in love with them. I think about it consistently and always come to the point where I have to let them go and see if they come back.

So no more pursuing, chasing, or consistently depending upon them. I feel that when I do this I always set myself up for pure disappointment.

I mean, maybe they just don't love me back or in the same fashion that I do? Maybe letting go would be the best for both of us? Maybe the likeness we have for each other will never amount to anything more than what I wish for it to become? Maybe it's my fault? Can't they just send me out a lifeline?

I am in this constant battle of hanging on and not giving up to disappointment, a broken heart, and letting go completely. Maybe I haven't tried hard enough because, to me, letting go seems to be the easy way out and just giving up and settling for second rate. I don't want to be like that. If I do let go, I would at least like to say that I put all my cards on the table.

When I abandon all my dreams of being with them is when I feel at my weakest. I'm mixed with emotions flowing through my heart and mind. I feel hopeless inside, almost as if I am destined to be alone all my life jut to prove that they were the only true person that was perfect for me.

I imagine a desk with a single lamp, a pen, and blank pieces of paper to write everything I can in order to share my thoughts and feelings. Everything I would write would become dedicated to them and every writing would use symbols and signs directed toward them signifying I can't let them go.

Sometimes it feels very hopeful like a burden lifted off my shoulders. For brief moments I feel empowered and encouraged to move on and that actually letting go can be freeing for me to explore all my abilities and ambitions. The downside is that it is lonely and depressing. Empty desk, blank paper, dark spaces are things I see in this hopelessness.

So I become confused at what to do. Letting go leads to loneliness while hanging on leads to disappointed wishes. The good thing is that love never leaves.

"I don't want to lose you all over again. So here's my heart, I'll give it over and over again..."
-Mat Kearney